I am a country music fan, and one of my favorite songs is “If I Could Write A Letter To Me” by Brad Paisley. The song is about what you would say to your younger self if you had the chance. It was playing on the radio today, and it got me thinking about what I would write to my younger self. I do believe that all roads lead to where I am today, but there are some things I would want my younger self to do differently.
Don’t try to be perfect at everything; sometimes you learn more from failure. I was that kid in school who would re-write my homework assignment if it didn’t look just right. I have several beautiful journals that don’t have anything written in them. I was always afraid I would make a mistake, writing the wrong words, or it would look sloppy. I am going to start writing in those journals.
Don’t miss out on events because you are afraid you don’t look good enough. People don’t care what you look like; they just want to spend time with you. Boy, it’s amazing how I still feel this way; I am still so hard on myself.
Don’t be so hard on yourself; you are doing the best you can. When you look back on most of the things you agonized over, you’ll realize how insignificant they really were in the whole scheme of things.
Don’t miss out on the opportunity to tell someone how much they meant to you. When I was in my 30’s, I visited the town where I went to elementary school and I missed out on contacting my favorite teacher for fear he wouldn’t remember me. He was by far the most influential teacher I ever had, and I missed him when we moved away. I should have contacted him and let him know how I felt about him. He has since passed away and now I’ll never have that chance.
Don’t settle, the love of your life is waiting for you and it is going to be worth the wait!
Don’t stay in a job that is sucking the life out of you. Once you realize that you are no longer enjoying it, plan for something else. Oh, how I wish I had done this so much sooner. I knew long before I started my hand poured soy candle business that I wanted to work for myself.
Don’t depend on others to make you happy. You are the only one who has control of how you feel. I heard someone say recently that you are the only who is with you every second of every day, be kind to yourself. I love that and am working on it every day!
What are some things you would like to tell your younger self? Would love to hear from you!